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14. Sunday night-Motzei Tisha B’av :
A. Havdala when Tisha B’av falls on Motzei Shabbos:[1]In the event that Tisha B’av falls on Motzei Shabbos, Havdala over wine is recited on Motzei Tisha B’av, which is Sunday night. The blessings of Besamim and Haeish are omitted from Havdala. One is to recite the blessings of Meorei Haeish on Motzei Shabbos upon seeing a candle. The blessing of Besamim is not said at all, not on Motzei Shabbos or Sunday night.
The Nusach of Havdala:[2] On Sunday night, one begins Havdala from “Hinei Keil Yeshuasi”.
Eating and drinking: It is forbidden to eat and drink after Tisha B’av until one says Havdala over wine, just as is the law on Motzei Shabbos. It is permitted to drink water although our custom is to avoid doing so.
| Who is to drink the Havdala wine?
Some Poskim[3] rule one may drink the wine of Havdala himself. There is no need to give it to a child to drink. Others[4] however rule wine should not be used, or is to be given to a child, just like on Motzei Shabbos Chazon. |
B. The mourning customs: [5]
In the event that Tisha B’av, the 9th of Av, falls on Sunday, all the regular regulations continue to apply until Monday by midday. In the event that Tisha B’av and Shabbos coincide, and hence Tisha B’av is deferred to Sunday, the custom is to not to eat meat or drink wine throughout the night of Motzei Tisha B’av [Sunday night].[6] See the list below regarding other mourning customs. The next morning [Monday] all the mourning customs are permitted.
The following mourning customs apply until sunrise of Monday the 11th of Av:
The following customs are permitted immediately on Sunday night, Motzei Tisha B’av, thew 11th of Av:[9]
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Q&A May one have marital relations on Motzei Tisha B’av that was pushed off to Sunday? Some[16] write one is not to have marital relations that night. Likewise, some[17] write that for health reasons one is to never have marital relations after a fast. Practically, on night of Mikveh one may have marital relations at this time. May one have a wedding on Motzei Tisha B’av that was pushed off to Sunday?[18] Some say in a time of great need it is permitted to do so. |
[1] Michaber 556:1
[2] So writes Hiskashrus 940 footnote 82 to be custom of the Rebbe. This dispute seemingly follows the same dispute regarding if these verses are to be recited on Motzei Yom Tov.
Other Opinions: In Luach Kolel Chabad it states one is to say Havdala like the order of the rest of Jewry which is to skip the verses of Hinei Keil Yeshuasi. So rules Mateh Ephraim 581:181; SSH”K 62:44
[3] M”B 556:3 in name of Degul Merivava; Piskeiy Teshuvos 558:3
[4] Peri Megadim 556 A”A 2; Aruch Hashulchan 556:2; Luach Eretz Yisrael of Harav Tukachinsky
[5] Rama 558:1
[6] The reason: As the night is an extension of the mourning which took place during the day.
[7] Rama ibid
[8] Rama ibid
[9] Other opinions: Harav Tukachinsky in Luach Eretz Yisrael writes that all the mourning customs apply until Monday morning. The list below does not
[10] Shaareiy Teshuvah 558 “Assur”; M”B 558:4
[11] SSH”K 62:49
[12] SSH”K 62:49
[13] Piskeiy Teshuvos 558:3
[14] Shaareiy Tziyon 558:4 regarding the meal of a wedding; brought in Piskeiy Teshuvos ibid
[15] Daas Torah 558; Maharsham 4:148; Sheivet Haleivi 6:70
[16] Shiyurei Kneses Hagedola on Tur 240
[17] Kaf Hachaim 558:7
[18] Piskeiy Teshuvos 558:3
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