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1. Diminishing in rejoicing:
At the entrance of the month of Menachem Av one diminishes in joy.[1] One is thus not to rejoice at all.[2] [Some[3] however learn that one is merely diminish in joy and does not have to end all joy completely.]
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Q&A Until when is one to diminish in joy? Some Poskim[4] say this ruling extends until Rosh Chodesh Elul. Others[5] rule it extends until after the 10th of Av. Others[6] rule it extends until the 15th of Av. Others[7] rule it extends until after Shabbos Nachamu. Matters of frivolity:[8] One is to be especially careful during these days not to have conversations of frivolity and lightheartedness.
Jewelry and makeup: Some Poskim[9] write women are to diminish in makeup and jewelry during the nine days. |
[1] Michaber 551:1; Mishneh Taanis 26b
[2] M “A 551:1; Elya Raba 551:1; Shulchan Gavoa 551:2; P”M 551 A”A 1; Chayeh Adam 133:9; M”B 551:1; Misgeres Hashulchan; Kaf Hachaim 551:2
Other opinions: Some Poskim rule one is only required to diminish in joy regarding the joyous matters discussed in this chapter. [Mateh Yehuda 551]
[3] Shaar HaTziyon 551:21 “possibly one only has to diminish his joy and not stop it completely”; Toras Menachem 9:99
[4] M”A 551:2 in name of Rabbeinu Yerucham regarding avoiding a court case with a gentile; M”B 552:2
[5] Kaf Hachaim 551:1 and 3; Ben Ish Chaiy Devarim 1; Aruch Hashulchan 551:11; M”B ibid “At the very least until after Tisha B’av”
[6] Glosses of Chasam Sofer 551; Yifei Laleiv brought in Kaf Hachaim 551:3; Rebbe in Shaareiy Halacha Uminhag 2:225 regarding moving
The reason: As good events occurred on the 15th of Av hence changing the tone of the month.
[7] Minchas Elazar 3:66 regarding weddings
[8] Yesod Veshoresh Havoda 11-12
[9] Ashel Avraham Butchach 551
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