From the Ravs Desk: Shaalos & Teshuvos on Wedding Dates

Should one avoid getting married past the 15^th day of the month in today’s times?[1]

Although it is recorded in the Poskim[2], and so was the original custom[3], to avoid getting married past the 15^th day of the month in most months[4], nonetheless, in today’s times the earlier one gets married the better and hence we do not pay attention to whether or not the wedding date is past the 15^th of the month so long as it is an earlier date then the other option.[5]

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[1] See Nitei Gavriel Nissuin Vol 1 Chapters 47-48

[2] Rama E.H. 64:3; Michaber Y.D. 179:2; See Nitei Gavriel Nissuin 47:5 footnote 11

[3] See Sefer Haminhagim Chabad p. 76

[4] See Sefer Haminhagim ibid and Shulchan Menachem 6:37

[5] Hiskashrus Vol. 161 p. 18 and 386 p. 18; Nitei Gavriel Nissuin 48:22 footnote 51, Printed in Shulchan Menachem 6:152; See Nitei Gavriel Nissuin 47:5 footnote 11

If one is particular not to get married past the 15^th day of the month made a get married on the 30^th day of the month which is the first day of Rosh Chodesh?[1]

The 30^th day of the month which is the first day of Rosh Chodesh is considered a valid date to get married, even if one is generally particular not to get married past the 30^th day of the month.

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[1] Igros Kodesh 9:46; 23:147; Nitei Gavriel Nissuin 47:7 footnote 23

May a non-Frum couple who was civilly married have a Kosher wedding during the three weeks?[1]

Yes.

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[1] See Even Pina 2:60; Response of Rebbe in Devar Melech 5752 p. 8, brought in Shulchan Menachem 6:160 “If you would ask a Rav a Pesak Din according to Shulchan Aruch, he would allow and instruct for the wedding to take place even during the three weeks. Kemuvan.”