Onen going to Shul

Is an Onen to attend Shul and recite Kaddish prior to the funeral?[1]

A son which is an Onen on his father may go to Shul and say Kaddish for his father.[2] [Practically, so is the Chabad custom.[3] The Rebbe said Kaddish while he was an Onen for his mother, Rebbetzin Chana, and his wife, Rebbetzin Chayah Mushka.[4]]


[1]Admur 71/1 in parentheses; Taz 71/2; Misgeres Hashulchan 341; The following Poskim agree to this ruling if the Chevra Kadisha has taken over the proceedings of the body: Beir Heiytiv 71/4; P”M 71 M”Z 2; Chochmas Adam 153/1; M”B 71/7

Other rulings of Taz: The Taz in Yoreh Deah 376/4 rules an Onen may not say Kaddish during the weekday and may only do so on Shabbos. The Poskim answer this contradiction by stating it is permitted if the Chevra Kadisha has taken over the proceedings of the body, and is forbidden if they are yet to do so. [Poskim brought next]

Other opinions: Some Poskim rule an Onen may not say Kaddish if the Chevra Kadisha has not taken over the proceedings of the body. [Beir Heiytiv 71/4; P”M 71 M”Z 2; Chochmas Adam 153/1; M”B 71/7] Some Poskim rule an Onen is not to say Kaddish at all prior to burial, even on Shabbos, as the purpose of Kaddish is to save the body from Gihennim and until burial Gihennim does not begin. [Nekudos Hakesef on Taz ibid; Chidushei Hagershuni on Taz ibid]

Regarding saying Kaddish by the funeral, before burial: Many are accustomed to do so-See Birkeiy Yosef 341/12; Shalmei Tzibur 178; Pischeiy Teshuvah 341/12; Shvus Yaakov 8; Kaf Hachaim 71/17; Yabia Omer 6/33; Gesher Hachaim p. 114

[2] The reason: As this honors ones father. [ibid] This ruling of Admur is placed in parentheses possibly due to the other opinions mentioned above that argue. [Chikrei Halachos 5/50]

[3] Igros Kodesh 3/199; 4/107 [printed in Shulchan Menachem 5/294]; Custom of Rebbe brought in Nitei Gavriel 17/1 [p. 113] and Shulchan Menachem p. 265

[4] Shulchan Menachem ibid footnote 21

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